Doing Our Homework Now

After Adhipen returned from India, we got some mails from Anne reporting that Aakriti's physical and emotional state had worsened. She even began to withdrawn from Anne and would bite and pinch her to get away. Anne was so upset! So were we!

It seems now, that she has calmed down with Anne, and hopefully that will last, but it really pointed out the need for us to do something now with regard to getting more tools on attachment issues with children who have undergone trauma or who have been in institutions.

I have begun to read some books about it, and we are searching out a therapist who can counsel us on how best to approach Aakriti so as not to futher traumatize her by the intense change of leaving the orphanage and coming to the US with us. I found a wonderful website (see the link center) that has been a rich resource for me.

An extremely kind person named Shilpa, has offered to teach me some Hindi words that we can say to Uma to help her feel more comfortable with us in the beginning. So nowI can say a few things in Hindi. :) My dear friend Neha, who speaks mainly Gugarati, said I had a great accent! :) Adhipen could not understand a word, but then he speaks Tamil.

We have decided not to keep calling the lawyer. He is starting to get annoyed with us. Instead, we will just call our adoption agency once a week and pray for progress in the courts. In the meantime, doing this homework to get ready for Uma's homecoming does help.